When friends only talk about themselves and their problems
Somewhere in the midst of constant interaction and communication, we have failed to connect all the dots. There are things you can ask your best friend that will make your bond stronger — for instance, though I know that my best friend likes to watch old episodes of Seinfeld when she's sad, I don't know the right things to stay after she gets frienr a fight with her mom or gets rejected from a job she applied for.
It occurred to me that many adult friendships, especially between roommates, can escalate quickly, creating a false sense of intimacy and closeness that takes an extra effort to friehd something more authentic and honest. Whilst stuck in traffic somewhere along the thruway, my best friend and I cycled through our usual topics: social gossip, celebrity rumors, tzlk drama, relationship woes, financial stress, and a lot of grunting and moaning regarding the slow pace of traffic.
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Her phone was dead, I was driving so I had mine tucked away, and we were a good three hours out from our destination. Without the distraction of mindless Instagram scrolling and without the freedom to leave the car, we decided to play a game of 20 questions that changed the way I approach friendships in my adult life.
What started out as a few failed attempts to guess "a corgi" and "The Lion King," we had decided to play a new kind of 20 questions; we asked each other personal questions. And before long, we arrived at our destination, knee-deep in heady, contemplative conversation, leaving us feeling closer than ever and equally fascinated with each other. Which is no easy feat when you spend most of your time with someone.
As it turns out, there is halk specific I can say to help comfort my best friend after she gets into an argument with her mother, and to my surprise, she'd much rather go get ice cream than hole up with Seinfeld for an afternoon. In those three hours, we got to know each other in a way we might never otherwise had the chance to.
So, here are 20 questions to ask your best friend that will make your relationship stronger than ever — and, of course, help to pass the time. Direct questions elicit honest responses. To understand your friend, you have to understand what it feels like to be your friend.
Whether it be mushroom pizza or skydiving, it will certainly spark a fun conversation. Cradle your iPhone?
Learn the best way to approach each other in those early hours. The Hamster Dance? Kristen Bell crying over the sloth? The shame was lifted. But you'll feel better after you do.
This could go on forever. Encourage each other to consider travel and independence. There's no wrong answer.
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No matter what you say, you'll be offering a whole lot of insight into your soul. That's fine too. There's no "right" answer for any of these questions, they're just deed to inspire you and your tal, to open your minds and hearts to some fresh conversations. If one question le you away from the list, follow it! This article was originally published on Oct.